You CAN go on.

You’ve found the fortitude before, when the deep depression hits and life seems without light, to move forward. And when you did that, when you decided to simply live, good things did manage to happen. You did laugh and find purpose and realize that you had people in your corner. The sun was beautiful and […]

It’s not always about you.

Hard title I know. But frankly we all believe that the things in our lives that happen to us or around us are ABOUT us. We assume responsibility for things that have nothing to do with us as a person. We have preset belief systems based on me against the world. Our biases, those invisible-to-us […]

Trust and Trauma

One of the things I most want people who have trauma histories to know is this: you don’t have to trust everyone. You don’t have to trust me. Meeting people, especially those you are “supposed” to trust, may create in you a frisson of fear. You experience intense caution around others because you have been […]

When emotions manifest physically

Somatization is the physical manifestation of emotional or psychological pain. There are a lot of people who, due to family or spiritual beliefs or cultural norms, are unable to admit to having emotional difficulties. Depression or anxiety may be seen as personal weaknesses, and admitting to those moods and the impact they can have on […]